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I'm a journalism freshman at MSU, and I hope to eventually publish my own novel one day.

Sunday, November 27, 2005

The sanctity of marriage

So for my first post, I would like to discuss the topic of marriage and divorce.

Now I realize that I may not be the best person to discuss this topic, considering that I'm not married. Heck, I don't even have a boyfriend. But even I can't help noticing that a lot of people don't really take marriage seriously anymore. The statistics show that more than half of the marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. That's basically like flipping a coin to predict what will happen. "Heads, they make it; tails, they won't last the year."

If that isn't a sign of trouble, then I don't know what is.

About a year ago, I attended a wedding reception of a girl who used to be my babysitter when I was little. A few months later, I found out that she and her husband divorced. Apparently, the reason behind the split was that the husband had issues that were self-destructive. The girl tried to help him as best as she could, but she eventually realized that she couldn't help him. Obviously, she couldn't be with a person who wouldn't or couldn't help himself, so they split up.

I think the main reason behind the increase of divorces is people don't take marriage seriously. They either rush into it and/or bail out when the going gets tough.

Anyone with common sense knows that marriage isn't always a picnic. There are going to be as many bad times as there will be good times. The only way that will determine if a marriage can last is if both parties are willing to actually try to work through whatever problems they may face. You can't just kick out your spouse or move out--albeit temporarily--after a fight and wait to see what happens. That doesn't always solve all your problems. Communication is the key.

Cheating, of course, is always an exception. If one person in a marriage is unfaithful, that's a clear sign to the other person that his/her spouse obviously does not care enough about him/her to work the problems in the marriage they have, no matter what excuses the cheating party uses. That is why I have no sympathy whatsoever for the characters in the movies Fatal Attraction and Unfaithful. If I was Michael Douglass's wife in Fatal Attraction, there was no way I would have taken her back.

Of course, they did have a child together, so maybe that's why she ended up doing that.

Which brings me to the next and possibly most important subject in this matter: the children. It's bad enough when a marriage ends in divorce, but it's even worse when children are involved. Many statistics show that children from broken homes are more likely to have emotional problems than children from normal homes. This isn't fair, since the children really didn't have anything to do with it. They don't deserve to go through that pain.

Therefore, it's up to the parents to help their children cope through this as much as possible. In many cases, the husband and wife are mature enough to put whatever issues they have behind them for the sake of their children. But other times, the parents are so wrapped up in their own pain that they don't see what it is doing to their children.

Yes, I know that divorce isn't easy for anyone, so it's easier to say this than to actually carry it out. Still, when you're a parent, your children come first. The best thing to do is to get over what issues you have and at least try to comfort them. If not, then you may (unintentionally) become a bad parent.

The media definitely reflects these statistics through satirical shows like The Simpsons. Is anyone tired of the whole Homer-and-Marge-breaking-up scenario? Because I am. When it was used in earlier earlier episodes, I liked how Marge would try to explain to the kids that although they didn't know what was going to happen between them, they both loved them very much. Yet in recent episodes, the family has become more dysfunctional because the parents are too wrapped up in their own crap to talk to their kids about it, let alone try to work things out for their sakes.

I don't mean to preach, but I really think married couples should take what I said into consideration, especially if things aren't looking so good. To everyone else, I advise that you don't get married unless you're absolutely sure that you are willing to stick with this person through good times AND bad, among other issues.

Any thoughts? If so, leave a comment in the comment box.

Until next time...

Friday, November 25, 2005

Hello!

Welcome to my blog!

My name is Courtney, and as you can see from the blog title, I am a journalism freshman at Michigan State University. This is the first time I have ever done an online blog, so I hope it will turn out all right.

Just to avoid any kind of trouble, I'm not going to talk about my personal life on this blog. That's my business, and my business alone. What I will have on this blog will be my thoughts on life in general, current events, movies (both recent and past), books, and anything else that I see fit to post on the Internet. I'm a very opinionated person, but I will not purposely offend anyone that may read these postings.

I will try to update as often as I can, only I'm a very busy person, what with college and all. Once again, welcome and a belated happy Thanksgiving to everyone!